The first time Greg came over, I made him dinner and then we had ‘amazing sex’ (to quote him), the second time we spent the day together, and it was nice in every way.
When he messaged about coming over to see me for the third time, he said ‘I did tell you I’m in a long-term open relationship, didn’t I?’
‘Hilarious’ I replied. ‘No, you left that bit out.’
Really, I don’t think he forgot, because he’d referred to ‘we’ once about doing his house up, and when I questioned the ‘we’ bit, he changed it to ‘I’, so he’d had the opportunity to tell me. What I think, is that he thought, oh shit, I like and respect her and haven’t told her but want to tell her…
He could tell I was bummed, but I explained it wasn’t because of him lying to me or misleading me, or the fact he was in an open relationship and nothing more could happen between us, because I didn’t want anything more to happen between us.
No, it’s just that in almost four years no one has come along either organically or on the apps who does want to date. That’s why I was bummed.
We get on well. We start talking about all sorts of things as soon as he arrives. He’s affectionate and likes spooning and kissing, which I pointed out was what you did with a girlfriend not a random shag, to which he kindly pointed out I wasn’t just a random shag.
So, the third time he came over we cuddled and kissed and spooned and I fed him mac n cheese again. And he told me more about his open relationship.
From when we first started messaging he’d asked me if I was into swinging or threesomes/foursomes, and would I be up for either or both with him, to which I said no, I prefer one-on-one intimacy. He was totally cool with that.
He loves his partner but they’re only 30, and to keep things interesting like to swing every now and again and have dates with other people; he works away from home a lot.
But they always tell each other when they have a date planned and who with. So, she knows all about me, apparently. On the third occasion, he told her he was staying over at mine, meanwhile she was out on a coffee date that evening, which may lead to more.
Afterwards, they would tell each other about what they got up to. Fair play as long as everyone’s honest with one another and everyone’s happy.
So, are there more of me plotted across the map? ‘Not anyone I see regularly’…